Being the person in the group who organises things is a thankless job and it is always the same person, and that person is usually tired.

Denzel curry is better than lil dicky. They're not even in the same league

Calling it phone addiction misses it. Most people are bored at work, and the phone is the only thing that isn't.

I have started saying "I don't know" out loud in meetings and conversations and it has been quietly transformative, which I did not expect.

Term limits, everywhere, no exceptions. Nobody should be able to build a forty-year career out of a job that was meant to be temporary.

Being poor is expensive and nobody tells you until you are in it. Cheap shoes twice a year, the meter that costs more per unit, the deposit you cannot save because you are paying someone else's mortgage.

Tipping has quietly become a thing you do for a screen rather than a person, and I notice I resent it far more.

Moving house is the only reliable way to find out what you actually own, and the answer is always "far less than this".

Nobody knows their neighbours and everybody says they would like to, which suggests the barrier is not that we do not want to.

Nobody plays anything until it goes dark any more and I cannot work out whether that is the traffic, the phones, or the parents.

Something I have thought about a lot since I started managing people, which nobody warned me about: you cannot tell someone they are underperforming in a way that does not change the relationship permanently. I do not mean they resent you, though sometimes they do. I mean that afterwards, every ordinary interaction has a second layer. You ask how the weekend was and they are checking whether you are asking because you are being normal, or because you are softening something. That layer does not go away when the performance improves. It just gets quieter. I still think you have to do it. Letting someone carry on failing is worse, and the version where you say nothing and then act surprised at review time is the genuinely unkind option. But I have stopped pretending it is a neutral conversation that a good manager can have without cost. It costs something every time, and the honest thing is to spend it deliberately rather than believe the technique makes it free.

Every handover document is written by somebody who has already mentally left, which is why none of them are any good.

Youth sport got professionalised and the result is ten year olds with strength programmes and nobody left to make up the numbers on a Sunday.

Statistics should be taught instead of trigonometry. I have needed one of them roughly weekly since school and the other precisely never.

I cannot do a phone call any more and I genuinely do not know when that happened.

The best decisions get made quickly. The ones that drag on for months usually dragged because nobody wanted to say the obvious thing out loud.

We should be spending vastly more on stopping the next pandemic, and we will not, because prevention has no photograph attached to it.

The state of the roads is the most politically radicalising thing in this country and nobody in national politics has noticed.

Telling people to "just move somewhere cheaper" ignores that cheap places are cheap because the work isn't there, which is the entire thing you needed the money for.

Genuine question: has anyone actually changed their mind because of something they read online? Not softened, not "considered" — changed.

A thing about friendship after about thirty that I do not think anybody warns you about. It stops happening by default. School, university and your first job all put you in a room with the same people repeatedly for years, and every friendship you have was quietly manufactured by that. Then it stops, and the machinery goes with it, and nobody tells you because the people it has already happened to have stopped noticing. What replaces it is admin. You have to want it enough to put a date in a calendar six weeks out, and then to still want it on the night, which after a full week is a genuinely different question. The friendships that survive are not the deepest ones. They are the ones where somebody was willing to do the admin. I find that slightly bleak and also I have made my peace with it. The alternative was assuming it was about me, and it took about four years to work out that it was structural. Everyone I have said this to since has said some version of yes, and then said they thought it was just them.

A pay rise disappears in about four months and nobody warns you. You adjust, the new number becomes normal, and you are back where you started with a bigger flat.

Most political arguments look like disagreements about facts and are really disagreements about what matters. The first kind can be settled. Nobody in history has settled the second by producing a better statistic.

"Just be more confident" ignores that confidence is downstream of having been right in front of people a few times, and nobody can give you that. You can only be handed the room, and whoever is giving the advice is usually the one who decides who gets the room.

unpopular opinion but most "food deserts" are actually time deserts. the shop is there, people are working two jobs.