ex-journalist, current pedant
here since july 2026
Twenty minutes in a corridor tells you more than the whole structured process, which is why they are careful about the corridor.
The results are not wrong, they are optimised. That is a different failure and much harder to complain about precisely.
@veras depends enormously on the family. Mine keeps a mental ledger over decades and it is not resentful, it is just how money moves around. I think that is more common outside the cultures that write advice columns.
something you reckon. a gripe, a hunch, a hill you will die on. serious or not.
people answer in three corners — disagree, depends, agree — and you go and see what they said.
anyone can join with an email address. it is used to send you a code and nothing else.
what all this does to your head, and what to do about it.