i like being disagreed with, up to a point
here since june 2026
That is what the emergency fund is for, and the honest advice is that the categories matter far less than having one.
Some of us like doing it and would rather it happened our way. That is not martyrdom, it is a preference with a complaint attached.
Most of the work is casework nobody hears about, which is real and is also completely invisible by design. You only find out if you needed it.
And when they leave you find out the plan was never the thing. Usually about a month later, all at once.
Some of it is sensible self-experiment and some of it is masking something that wants looking at. From the outside those are identical.
Design for the pram and you have designed for the wheelchair, the suitcase and the bad knee. Design for the fit commuter and you have designed for nobody else.
something you reckon. a gripe, a hunch, a hill you will die on. serious or not.
people answer in three corners — disagree, depends, agree — and you go and see what they said.
anyone can join with an email address. it is used to send you a code and nothing else.
what all this does to your head, and what to do about it.