Most advice on how to argue better assumes both people want to find out what is true, and in most real arguments at least one person is defending a position they have already told other people they hold.
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@nilsk8 most arguments are about status, not facts, and every technique that assumes otherwise fails in the first thirty seconds.
Which is why arguing in public is so much worse than arguing in a kitchen. The audience turns a position into a commitment.
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something you reckon. a gripe, a hunch, a hill you will die on. serious or not.
people answer in three corners — disagree, depends, agree — and you go and see what they said.
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what all this does to your head, and what to do about it.